Earlier today, I wrote a short article about something that was on my mind: Motivation.
I decided to take a walk along the riverside and record a podcast about the topic, expanding on it and also discussing an accompanying subject to a lesser degree: method.
The original article is below, and to listen to the podcast, simply click on the “play” button.
Some people are either naturally better at self-motivation or have managed to learn to be self-motivated. I fall much more into the latter category, as I feel it requires me to make a concentrated, focused, and organized effort of planning in order to accomplish my goals, short or long-term.
Knowing and doing are different but related. In order to do correctly, one must know, and in order to know, one must do the searching, knocking, and asking.
Our circle of friends, family, classmates, and colleagues will either lend to our motivation or detract from it. In the vast majority of our lives, those around us are, for the most part, demotivators.
It is true that there are those positive and supportive people around us, but all in all they are quite few. In truth, the masses prefer that which is relatable, similar, understandable, and familiar. In short, we prefer that which we feel we know.
When one decides to veer away from the norm and wander a new or lightly-trodden path, there arises immediately around about us an ever-thickening cloud of resistance. To those of us who are seeking the change and see it as an improvement to our lives, this smog of deterrence appears as negativity and pessimism, and the opposite of support or even love.
The sad result often is that this shroud of resistance quite often negates our motivation to pursue or act upon our desires. In an effort, essentially, to appease those about us and remove this “inconvenient,” seemingly “selfish,” and dividing development from those about us, we frequently give in to what they want—and stay right where we are, doing just what we’ve been doing, and life “goes back to normal.”
If we are lucky enough to have a cloud of positive, selfless, and encouraging support, then motivation can be fostered and help us cultivate ourselves inside-out. This can help us to walk the path of our true desires–and all without the false belief that we are being selfish.
The reality is that most of us are the have-nots.
We have not the immediate brand of encouragement we need from our families, current group of friends and acquaintances, classmates, teachers, or colleagues. Support and encouragement, sadly, are often not found within the affection we have for one another. In other words, just because your dad loves you doesn’t mean that he will support your desire to go to a puppetry school.
This is one of the main areas where I’ve diverted from many in my family. I refuse to impose my own desired course in life upon my daughter or those around me. While I do push and encourage people to pursue knowledge and always consider bigger things, I most certainly do not discourage them from their dreams.
Remember that–daily and ultimately–the motivation you need is going to be up to you. Right now, I’m saying this to myself, but it’s also true for you, as well as everyone.
Don’t wait on your parents to believe in you–it’s possible they never will. Accept it.
Stop relying on support from your closest friends or colleagues–they may only continue to resist your ideas. Accept it.
Most importantly, accept the fact that most people respond in the same discouraging manner, which goes against your desires. It’s just the way it is.
You alone are responsible for your motivation and success. Success itself isn’t just in the having, it’s in the process of trying, and if you’re getting back up every day to try again, then you are winning—you are already a success.